A Little Tough Love

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I’m getting ready to kick off the new year with a four part series on time management/organizational strategies that have helped me get where I am, but I don’t think any of that has value without a little tough love.

You are exactly where you want to be.

Yes, that is exactly what I said. You are exactly where you want to be. You have chosen your life.

Now, I know some of you are thoroughly pissed at me at the moment and are thinking things like, “I wouldn’t be here if my ex…” or “I wouldn’t be here if my parents…” I’m sure all of that is true, but you made choices that put you where you are, and you continue to make choices that keep you where you are.

How can I say that? How can I be so harsh? Because I’ve been there, and now I’m not. I know how feels, and I know how it feels to break free.

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Welcoming in the New Year

Every New Year, I inevitably get asked, “What are your New Year’s resolutions?”  Answer?  I DIDN’T MAKE ANY!  Why you ask?  Because they don’t work, and they leave you feeling deflated and unsuccessful.  What fun is that?  Is that any way to start a promising new year?  Of course not!  😉

I do, however, firmly believe that the start of a new year is a great time to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re going, which is exactly what I’ve been doing the last few days.

goalsAt the start of 2015, I found myself very restless and frustrated.  I felt like 2014 had been a year of rocking back and forth but not really getting anywhere.  I spent most of the year reacting to situations and doing what others thought I should do rather than what I wanted to do.  My mission for 2015?  Clear the clutter.  Figure out what I really want in life.  Become my authentic self.  Let go and let God.

As 2015 came to a close, I finished the year feeling really good about where my life is and what I’d done with the previous year.  I made a commitment to get back to the healthy, fit person I used to be.  I’m now 27 pounds lighter, a dress size smaller, exercising every day (even if it’s only doing barn chores!), and eating much healthier.  I haven’t just lost weight; I’ve committed to a healthier lifestyle.

In an attempt to clear the clutter from my life, I’ve given somewhere in the neighborhood of 20 boxes of books, movies, and other things to Goodwill, family, and friends.  My husband and I have gotten rid of the TV, furniture we don’t use, and anything else that hasn’t been touched in the last year.  We’re making plans to sell our house, buy a piece of land, and live in a travel trailer while we build our dream house.  The barn will naturally be built first.  😀

goals2I’ve made some other changes.  I’m seeking more time for my ministries and for leadership training.  I walked away from a job that just wasn’t very fulfilling.  It was a difficult decisions because I worked with good people, people who were hard to walk away from.  But I am now in a position and at a company that are more inline with my long-term goals and my personal philosophies.  Last but not least…  I’ve stopped dying my hair.  I’m letting it go gray.  I’ll explain that later, but it is a part of becoming a more authentic me.

2015 was a good year.  It wasn’t an easy year, but it was definitely a good year.

Looking forward to 2016, my goal is to continue to be a healthier, happier, more fulfilled, more authentic me.  I love the path my life is on, and I want to continue.  I want more simplicity, more deep relationships, and more time to be me.  Here’s how I plan to start:

  1. Commit and act of kindness every day.
  2. Loose 16 more pounds.
  3. Increase my exercise goals.
  4. Eat more foods grown at home.
  5. Find and master a planning/goal tracking/journal system that works for me.

I will of course keep you posted on my progress.  😉  I am sure there will be bumps along the way, but I am confident that if I am on the right path, God will provide.  In the end, it’s the progress that matters most.

What did you accomplish in 2015?  What do you have planned for 2016?